A GIFT TO THE HUSBAND AND WIFE

Hakeem bin Muaawiyah رضي الله عنهnarrated from his father that he asked Rasulullah (Holy prophet Muhammad) صلي الله عليه وسلمabout the rights of wives against their husbands. He replied:

1)    When you eat, feed her as well.
2)    When you clothe yourself, clothe her as well.
3)    Don’t hit her on the face. (In other words, don’t hit her in spite of it being her fault. Beating on any part of her body.)
4)    Don’t curse her.
5)    (And) don’t sever relationship with her except within the house (in other words, don’t leave the house if you happen to be displeased with her out of the home.)
{Abu Dawood}
Abdullah bin Zamah رضي الله عنه narrates that Rasulullah صلي الله عليه وسلم said: “None of you should beat his wife as though he is beating his slave then at the end of the day he has intercourse with her!”
(Bukhari, Muslim, Termizi)
Abu Hurayrah رضي الله عنه narrates that Rasulullah (Holy prophet Muhammad) صلي الله عليه وسلمsaid: “I advise you to maintain a favorable relationship with your women accept this advice from me because women were created from a crooked rib if you endeavor to straighten her, you will break is, her and breaking her is divorcing her and if you leave her as she is, she will always remain crooked therefore, accept this good advice in favor of them.”
(Bukhari, Muslim, Tirmizi)

Note: straightening her mean endeavoring to ensure that there remains nothing which you will be unsuccessful in this Endeavour. If you continue bearing down upon her all the time it will eventually lead to divorce hence. You should overlook her trivial faults. Also, at times excessive harshness and negligence can bring about non-deeni satanic thoughts within her heart.
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By:
Mulana Muhammad Aashraf Ali Thanawi (Rahimahullah)